So, what next?

When someone asks the question, ‘So, what next?’, there are some people who answer ‘I’m doing my masters right now. I plan to become manager in the next two years and start my own company in the next ten years’ and some people who answer ‘Ummm… Not sure.’
While the first category are termed as confident, the second category are called ‘aimless’.  Is it necessary for a person to plan everything ahead of time to be termed as confident and successful? What if a person is content with living one day at a time? Aren’t such people confident? Aren’t they ‘living’?

One idea that is gripping every person these days, thanks to the self-help books, is that ‘Every person should have a goal in his life’. Every person should be able to know what he’s planning to do in the next ten years, or for that matter, rest of their life. They should plan pension, children’s savings, insurances, everything, far ahead of time. Sometimes, I’m gripped by the thought that we are forgetting ‘living’ in this ‘planning’. Isn’t ‘living’ the most important goal of life?

I haven’t seen much life, may be, but one thing I understood from life is that it’s unpredictable. It can change in a second. I’m probably being pessimistic here, but what’s use of planning in such a unpredictable life?

As adults, we forget how unpredictable life can be, and we pose the same question to our children. What next? Why can’t we pass on somewhat carefree attitude to our next generation? Life is not a competition. We need not set goals every second. If someone fails tenth grade, that’s okay. If someone fails in their love, that’s okay too. There’s a lot of life ahead to rectify our ‘mistakes’. Every second gives us a chance to make a fresh start. Live a little. Make mistakes. Enjoy last minute decisions. After all, why should take life so seriously when we don’t know what’s going to happen the next minute? The most important thing is ‘living’.

Recurring themes in Hindi soaps

I have been spending a lot of time at home, so I too finally fell into the habit of watching Hindi soaps. At first I found them very interesting. But then, after watching them for almost six months now, I found a few recurring themes in all of them.

1. Heroine/Hero is shot by the villain (preferably by lady villain). We wait with nail-biting tension as he/she is admitted in the hospital. The doctor removes his spectacles gravely and says that it's very difficult to save him/her and the 'condition is serious'. All the family members cry. We are shown the 'flash backs' of happier times. Miraculously, 'Matarani ki krupa se' he/she is saved. Covers 20 episodes.

2. One of the family members is kidnapped (again by this lady villain). Heroine (not hero) goes and rescues him/her. Easily covers 15 episodes.

3. We come to know that hero is not actually a true member of the family. He is either an orphan adopted by the family, or son of the villain or something. Hero feels betrayed. We too can’t believe the truth. We watch him go through the agony of deciding whether he should leave the family or not. We feel bad. At last he’s convinced that the family is his true family. We sigh in relief. Everything is lovey dovey. The topic is not even mentioned afterwards even though we watched his agony for 20 episodes.

4. When there is nothing interesting going on, the family (usually a very large joint family) celebrates the upcoming festival with songs and dance. If there are no festivals coming up, they celebrate the marriage day or birthday (they plan a surprise party) of one of the family members. This will cover five episodes. That means the larger the family, the greater the number of episodes covered in terms of each person’s birthday.

5. If even birthdays are also not possible, we can always see the romance of hero and heroine with some latest Hindi song like ‘Tum hi ho’ playing in the background.

6. Alok Nath is nothing compared to the ‘bahus’ in Hindi serials when it comes to ‘Sanskaar’. The ‘Sanskaari bahus’ spend half of their time giving aartis to ‘bhagvan’ and other half adjusting their ‘goonghat’ and cooking in the kitchen.

These common themes make it easier for any person to follow the soap from the middle. And even if you missed some 20 episodes, you need not worry. You can always understand what’s happening in a jiffy. 

Well, all the above points cannot stop me from watching the soaps. Because, now I came to know, it is a kind of addiction.

Before and After Marriage

Before marriage:
Husband: Aaah! At last… I can hardly wait!
Wife: Do you want me to leave?
Husband: No! Don’t even think about it !
Wife: Do you love me?
Husband: Of course! Always have and always will!
Wife: Have you ever cheated on me?
Husband: No! Why are you even asking?
Wife: Will you kiss me?
Husband: Every chance I get!
Wife: Will you hit me?
Husband: Hell no! Are you crazy?
Wife: Can I trust you?
Husband: Yes!
Wife: Darling!
After Marriage:
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Lol! That’s hilarious. Just saw it in fb. Really, do men change so much after marriage? I often hear people complaining that before marriage their husbands used to gift them chocolates everyday, take them to movies and dates, but after marriage they completely changed. That’s not the case with me (meaning Sarath never gifted me chocolates, not even before marriage. He always preferred to keep my expectations low. :P ), but is it yours?