How to be happy?



It's quite difficult to define the state of our mind. When we get something we want, a new job, a house, we become happy and when we lose something, we become disappointed. I always imagine the state of mind as a speedometer whose needle usually swings between being content and being disappointed in life.

I always wanted to know how to be happy, not content, which is a deeper form of happiness. How to be just happy, everyday? Before I proceed, let me first clarify why I don't like being content.

Being content, according to me, is a state of everlasting happiness. You have no expectations, no disappointments, no desires and no problems. You love your life as is and are no expecting no more from it. While there huge perks to being content, there is also a minor problem i.e., 'stagnation'. You become 'stagnant', you have no desire for achievement. No, I dislike being content and thereby becoming stagnant.

So, should everyone be disappointed in their lives? Disappointment in life,sometimes, can drive us to achieve something bigger and better. I believe that high-achievers are disappointed with their lives and their achievements, which is why they constantly try to achieve more. Once they become become content, they lose the desire, and there starts their downfall. Being disappointed in life has its perks too, but, sometimes, being deeply disappointed in life can lead to depression.

Coming back to our question, how to be happy, everyday? The key to happiness is to strike a balance between being content and being disappointed in life. That state is being 'not disappointed' but 'not content' either. Since you're not disappointed, you're happy. But since you're not content, there's some desire, which will drive you towards achievement,

In her book The Secret, Rhonda Byrne, the author, advises people to end their day by writing down the list of things they're thankful for. This will definitely help us feel satisfied with what we have now. And then she advises people to write down what they want in future. I believe it's a brilliant idea to help us strike a balance between contentment and disappointment.

The key to happiness is to be satisfied with what we have now, but to have the desire burning within us to achieve something better.



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  2. Content should be lasting happiness and stagnation takes away your happiness through boredom. So, the feeling of content doesn't lead to stagnation. Content is no regrets. Happiness is positives. Content includes hope Divya :)

    -Vamsi

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    1. Well said, Vamsi. I completely forgot to factor in hope. But isn't hope the prelude to all disappointments? Should contentment include hope?

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  3. Remember.. Happiness is your foe..
    Be in a state of equilibrium where you are the only one who exists..


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  4. The key to happiness is grief. The more grief we experience, more happiness we'll realize even in ordinary situations. I think there should be a balance between the two.

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    1. That's a unique thought. Life itself provides a balance between the two. There will be periods where we experience nothing but grief and periods where we experience too much happiness. But taking both of them alike, and being satisfied with what have, is necessary to stay happy even in grief. I know it's easy to preach but difficult to follow.

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